Dealing with Differences

In Philippians 4:2 we read of two Christians, who, once upon a time, had worked alongside the apostle Paul in his church planting ministry, but who now have had a very public falling out with each other - and everyone knows about it. In fact, we still know about it today, 2000 years later! Just imagine how they'd feel, just imagine how you'd feel, if you knew that the only thing you'd be known for in 2000 years was the fact that you had a falling out with someone else in your church.

But these things happen, even in churches - because churches are not made up of super-spiritual people - they are made up of ordinary people like you and me, who are loved by God and who are trying to follow Jesus. But as we mature in our faith we should learn how to better handle our differences.

The cross is central to our faith, and as Christians we must keep coming back to the cross - that's why we have communion/breaking of bread/Eucharist. It is at the cross that we are reminded that Jesus gave up everything, even his life, because of his love for us. It is because of the cross that I can know the forgiveness of God. And therefore if I am claiming to follow Jesus - who gave up everything even though he was God - how can I demand my rights? If I accept God's love and forgiveness how can I refuse to forgive others for what they have done to me?

This attitude will help to put our differences in perspective. And these points may also help.

• Pray
• Talk to a mature, trusted, Christian friend who will be able to help us work through our side of the issue.
• Consider your motives - why do you think this - is it your pride speaking?
• Talk to the person involved, but

1. Give them the benefit of the doubt, and assume the best rather than the worst of them.
2. Be gracious and compassionate and forgiving and loving.
3. Keep your mind open and your mouth closed!
4. If necessary involve a trusted, mature Christian friend in your discussions.

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