Reflection 03 - The one about reconciliation

On Sunday we moved into the next section on the Sermon on the Mount. Jesus states that he has not come to abolish the law but to fulfil it. David Newton, from St. Mary’s, unpacked those thoughts very helpfully for us. If you’ve not yet had a chance to watch or listen you’ll find the video here and the podcast here. 

And then Jesus begins a section where he repeatedly says, ‘you’ve heard it said that … but I tell you …’ (in verses 21, 27, 32, 33,38, 43).

The first of these is to do with murder and anger. Jesus warns us about the dangers of anger and harsh words. He then goes on to a very practical application. A situation where a person is bringing an offering before God. In that process – may be because of a prayer of confession that is being offered – the person remembers a broken relationship. Jesus tells his disciples to stop what they’re doing and go and put things right before returning to the altar and offering the gift to God. This broken relationship is with a brother or sister – not in terms of a blood relative, but in terms of another follower of Jesus.

My Greek is not sufficiently good to know whether the phrase, ‘has something against you’ is specifically talking about a situation where you have wronged someone – so they have something against you. Certainly, for those situations where we are at fault, we have even more responsibility to put things right.

These verses highlight just how important it is to put things right as quickly as possible and how high on God’s list of priorities doing that is.

Few of us like confrontation and many of us will avoid it if we can. I wonder how many of us have unresolved disagreements, hurts or offenses lurking in the background? And rather than deal with it we’ve allowed it to spoil the relationship. You’ll know if you have because God will have just brought that person or situation to mind!

Have a think about the church family at CBC. Is there anyone that you would choose not to sit next to? Is there anyone who, if they invited you out for a coffee, you’d find a reason to say ‘no’? Is there someone you’d not invite to your home for a meal?

Obviously, there are situations where those things would not be appropriate or where strict boundaries need to be in place for our own protection. But hopefully you get the idea I’m driving at.

If God has brought a situation to mind where you need to put things right, then a practical application of these verses is to do that before Sunday. 

Clearly, there are two sides in any relationship and you only have control over one half. You have no idea how the other person is going to respond. They may have no idea that they have offended you in the past. They may have forgotten all about the issue a long time ago. They may still be very bitter and not prepared to move on.

It is quite likely that re-visiting past hurt is going to be painful, and the process of reconciliation is not going to be quick or easy. But fractured relationships within the church family damage our relationship with God and our relationship with each other. That’s why it is so important to stop what you’re doing and go and be reconciled to that person.