As we continue our journey through Ephesians we come to a passage that has been misunderstood, misused and abused over the years. It can be very easy to make the Bible say what you want it to say - sometimes this is deliberate, other times it is unintentional. [This is why we have been working through our 'Using the Bible' course - to help us understand and apply the Bible better].
Ephesians 5:22-24 have been used to justify various kinds of abuse against women: physical, emotional, spiritual, psychological... At other times they have been used to encourage an attitude of silence towards such abuses - whereas the verses we read last week could have been used to encourage the exposing of such sin. Instead the prevailing attitude was that what goes on in the home should stay in the home.
But a reading of these verses that allows any room for any kind of abuse against anyone is quite wrong. Although these verses talk about a woman submitting to her husband in everything because he is the head of the wife we must read the immediate and wider context.
The immediate context (building again on the 'theory' of chapters 1-3) is that we are to submit to one another. This is mutual submission. Everyone to everyone else - whether male or female, Jew or Gentile, black or white, slave or free, rich or poor, in work or out of work...
And the command to the husband is to love his wife with the love that Jesus had for the church - that is the love that took Jesus to the cross even while we were still enemies of God. This is a totally self-sacrificial love that will put the interests of a wife ahead of its own.
So what does it mean for the husband to be the head of the wife? I believe that we are submit to each other. We are commanded to love each other. But God has given the husband the responsibility for his family - and he will be accountable to God for this. Decisions generally will be made through discussion and agreement - but when a stalemate is reached the husband makes the final decision - having lovingly put the interests of his wife before his own. When there has been an argument and bed time is approaching it is the husband's responsibility to make the first move to put things right (as instructed in 4:26).
A final word to overbearing parents. Verse 31 reminds us that when your children get married they enter into a new relationship and a new chapter in their lives. It is not your place to interfere. Some parents just can't help themselves and without trying they come between their son/daughter and their new wife/husband. They expect that they'll be around every Sunday for lunch and every year on Christmas day - just as before. They expect to be consulted about every decision. When your children get married, you have to let go. This doesn't mean you don't love them or they don't love you or that you won't be there when they need you. It just means that things are different now - because they are.
Wednesday, 2 July 2008
Wednesday, 25 June 2008
Copy Cat
Children learn by copying. My youngest daughter copies her older sister and I often catch the older one, who's three, deliberately copying me - whether it be the way I'm standing, maybe I'm tapping my foot, or something that I say. When we're growing up we learn by immitating what those around us do.
This week we've looked at Ephesians 5:1-20. Paul is in the middle of giving instructions on how to live as a follower of Jesus. And into the middle he commands that we should follow God's example. The immediate context is forgiveness and love. The underlying principle of Christian behaviour is love. We immitate a God who is not just loving (although He is) - rather God is love. It is not possible to properly understand or define love without reference to God. 1 John 3:16 says, 'This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for one another.'
When God is talking about love it is something that gives, something that puts others first, something that is self-sacrificial. Children learn by copying those they spend time with. As a follower of Jesus, I should be learning what it means to live a life characterised by love - by immitating the character of Jesus, which I read about in the Bible, and as I spend time with other disciples who are also walking this path.
This week we've looked at Ephesians 5:1-20. Paul is in the middle of giving instructions on how to live as a follower of Jesus. And into the middle he commands that we should follow God's example. The immediate context is forgiveness and love. The underlying principle of Christian behaviour is love. We immitate a God who is not just loving (although He is) - rather God is love. It is not possible to properly understand or define love without reference to God. 1 John 3:16 says, 'This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for one another.'
When God is talking about love it is something that gives, something that puts others first, something that is self-sacrificial. Children learn by copying those they spend time with. As a follower of Jesus, I should be learning what it means to live a life characterised by love - by immitating the character of Jesus, which I read about in the Bible, and as I spend time with other disciples who are also walking this path.
Monday, 16 June 2008
Why your CV will end up in the bin!
If you're a fan of The Apprentice then you will know that the ultimate winner of the series was exposed a week earlier for having lied on his CV. In an interview on Radio 5 Live this last week, Alan Sugar defended his final decision and stated that he could assure the listener that every CV he receives contains something that is not quite the truth. He also stated that it was OK to lie in order to get a job because we live in a commercial world and that is what everyone does. (To listen to an extract from the interview listen to this message - see below).
That's evidently the way that one of the top bosses in this country thinks - and obviously a lot of other people do too. But as a Christian I am called to think differently. In this week's passage from Ephesians - 4:17-32 - we read that one of the implications of becoming a Christian is that you have to think differently; you have a new attitude of your mind. Some people think that you have to remove your brain and stop thinking for yourself when you become a Christian - you just accept whatever you hear or read in church or on the God Channel. But as Christians we are called to use our brains to think - to think from a different perspective, as we allow the Holy Spirit to guide and teach us. And different thinking leads to different behaviour.
In this passage Paul gives some practical steps to living as a Christian.
1) Don't lie but tell the truth.
2) When you get angry don't sin - don't punch someone, or swear, or kick the cat or say something that you will later regret - instead sort things out quickly in a loving way so that hurts don't fester and become poisonous.
3) Don't steal, or fiddle your tax returns anymore - instead work so that you can provide something for those in need.
4) Watch what you say - only say things that will encourage and build others up, rather than pull them down.
5) Live a life that is consistent with the fact that you are a Christian.
6) Get rid of things like bitterness, rage, anger, brawling, slander and malice.
7) Instead be kind and compassionate and forgiving.
To listen to this message click here.
That's evidently the way that one of the top bosses in this country thinks - and obviously a lot of other people do too. But as a Christian I am called to think differently. In this week's passage from Ephesians - 4:17-32 - we read that one of the implications of becoming a Christian is that you have to think differently; you have a new attitude of your mind. Some people think that you have to remove your brain and stop thinking for yourself when you become a Christian - you just accept whatever you hear or read in church or on the God Channel. But as Christians we are called to use our brains to think - to think from a different perspective, as we allow the Holy Spirit to guide and teach us. And different thinking leads to different behaviour.
In this passage Paul gives some practical steps to living as a Christian.
1) Don't lie but tell the truth.
2) When you get angry don't sin - don't punch someone, or swear, or kick the cat or say something that you will later regret - instead sort things out quickly in a loving way so that hurts don't fester and become poisonous.
3) Don't steal, or fiddle your tax returns anymore - instead work so that you can provide something for those in need.
4) Watch what you say - only say things that will encourage and build others up, rather than pull them down.
5) Live a life that is consistent with the fact that you are a Christian.
6) Get rid of things like bitterness, rage, anger, brawling, slander and malice.
7) Instead be kind and compassionate and forgiving.
To listen to this message click here.
Sunday, 8 June 2008
We're one but we're not the same
The words of the U2 song 'One' say, '...We're one but we're not the same, We carry each other, We carry each other...'
This week our series in Ephesians reaches 4:1-16, the message of which is really, 'we're one but we're not the same'. Paul has been revealing to his readers that as Christians they are 'one in Christ' with all other followers of Jesus. For the readers in first century Ephesus the issue was Jew / Gentile - that is how do Jewish Christians and non-Jewish Christians relate to each other. So far in Ephesians there have only been two instructions - 2:11 and 3:13. Now the instructions start to come thick and fast, but the thrust of verses 1-6 is essentially that as Christians we must do everything to ensure unity. Because there is one body, one Spirit, one hope, Lord, faith, baptism and God (4-5) division in the church is inconsistent with the life we have been called to live (1).
The second part of Paul's argument here follows on - although we're one, we're not all the same. Instead we are all interdependent on each other. In his book God has a Dream: A Vision of Hope in our Time, Desmond Tutu speaks of the African concept of 'ubuntu': the idea that I am because I belong; that my well being is somehow inextricably wound up in your well being (p25-27). God has designed the church so that we will be interdependent on each other. No one has all the gifts and abilities and talents. Instead these gifts, abilities and talents are shared out among everyone. This means that everyone in the church has a role to play and it also means that if one person is not playing their part the rest will suffer. The message that Paul preaches is that we are saved to serve - not saved to sit. What has God called you to do?
To listen to this message click here.
This week our series in Ephesians reaches 4:1-16, the message of which is really, 'we're one but we're not the same'. Paul has been revealing to his readers that as Christians they are 'one in Christ' with all other followers of Jesus. For the readers in first century Ephesus the issue was Jew / Gentile - that is how do Jewish Christians and non-Jewish Christians relate to each other. So far in Ephesians there have only been two instructions - 2:11 and 3:13. Now the instructions start to come thick and fast, but the thrust of verses 1-6 is essentially that as Christians we must do everything to ensure unity. Because there is one body, one Spirit, one hope, Lord, faith, baptism and God (4-5) division in the church is inconsistent with the life we have been called to live (1).
The second part of Paul's argument here follows on - although we're one, we're not all the same. Instead we are all interdependent on each other. In his book God has a Dream: A Vision of Hope in our Time, Desmond Tutu speaks of the African concept of 'ubuntu': the idea that I am because I belong; that my well being is somehow inextricably wound up in your well being (p25-27). God has designed the church so that we will be interdependent on each other. No one has all the gifts and abilities and talents. Instead these gifts, abilities and talents are shared out among everyone. This means that everyone in the church has a role to play and it also means that if one person is not playing their part the rest will suffer. The message that Paul preaches is that we are saved to serve - not saved to sit. What has God called you to do?
To listen to this message click here.
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